Supporting a Loved One After Baby Loss – It’s Not Just the Parents Who Grieve
When a baby is lost during or after pregnancy, the heartbreak reaches beyond just the mother. Fathers, birthing partners, grandparents, and even siblings can be deeply affected. They may carry their own pain—quietly, and often unseen.
At Amazing Grace, Friends of Fetal Medicine, we understand that loss doesn’t only touch the parents. It can affect the whole family, and everyone deserves support in finding their way through grief.
Grief Affects Everyone Differently
Every person processes loss in their own way. Some may feel overwhelming sadness, others anger, guilt, or even numbness. Some keep their feelings inside to avoid burdening others or because they think their grief doesn’t “count.” But the loss of a baby leaves its mark on anyone who loved or hoped for that child.
Whether it’s the baby’s father, a grandparent, a partner, or a sibling—they all matter. Their grief is valid, and so is their need for support.
What You Can Do to Help
If someone you love is struggling, you may not know how to support them. Here are some gentle ways to help:
- Be present
You don’t need to find the perfect words. Just being there, listening without judgement, or sitting together in silence can be a comfort. - Don’t make assumptions
Everyone grieves differently. Just because someone isn’t talking doesn’t mean they’re coping. Try not to assume how they should feel. - Encourage them, gently
If they’ve been referred for counselling but feel unsure, encourage them to try one session at a time. There’s no pressure, and they’re welcome to explore it at their own pace. - Care for yourself, too
Supporting someone through baby loss can bring up your own emotions. Our service is available to extended family members too—so if you’re struggling, we’re here for you as well.
Our Counselling Support
We work with fully trained, BACP and COSCA-registered counsellors who offer talking therapy in a safe, welcoming space. Our counsellors are confidential, non-judgemental, and experienced in helping people cope with the unimaginable emotions and complex feelings that often follow pregnancy loss or difficult birth experiences.
This service is available not only for parents, but also for grandparents, birthing partners, and siblings. The cost of counselling is fully covered by our organisation, so there is no charge to those who use it.
We understand that the timing has to be right. There’s no deadline for accessing support—whether it’s weeks, months, or years later, we’re here when you’re ready.
If you or someone close to you would like to learn more, please use the Contact Us.
No matter your role in the family, if you’re hurting—you deserve support too.
